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Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

Unlocking the Secrets to Ultimate Bliss


Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

Unlocking the Secrets to Ultimate Bliss

The Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage is the indispensable marriage guide. With a wealth of experience and a warm sympathetic tone, the author Shaykh Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera brings the insight of a scholar with thousands of hours of spiritual and marital-counselling practice and Islamic erudition to this crucial subject. Topics range from how to find a partner and dealing with in-laws to developing spousal intimacy and the unfortunate divorce.

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  • Extremely well thought-out, well-written and easily digestible with its casual tone
  • Offers an absolute wealth of anecdotal experiences along with cultural discussions and the necessary legal explanation.
  • Provides many real-life experiences and scenarios to make it relatable to each reader, especially in the West.
  • Suggests practical solutions to the multiple issues arising in any marriage, especially how to navigate conflict.
  • Provides detailed discussions on domestic violence and subjects like infertility and sexual intimacy.
  • Offers useful suggestions for kindling romance.
  • A handy resource for every couple throughout their journey of marriage.
  • A potential saver of couples from messing up their lives and making terrible errors they would later regret.
  • Contemporary Islamic self-help on marriage at its finest.

“This book is unique in the sense that it combines an enlightened but Orthodox fiqhi perspective with years of real pastoral and practical experience dealing with issues pertaining to Islamic marriage in our times, particularly as regards Muslims in the West. Every young Muslim (especially in the West) wanting to get married—or newly married—should read it. It might save them from messing up their lives, and making terrible errors they would always regret. I know of no better book for this. It is also well-written and easily digestible. May God reward Mufti Mangera for having written it and making his tremendous experience and wisdom available for a paltry price. Contemporary Islamic self-help at its finest!”

HRH Prince Ghazi bin Muhammad

Author of Love in the Qur’an, Jordan

“Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage by Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera will be the first book I give my son as he begins to contemplate the life stage of marriage and family. In this book, Mufti Mangera discusses every aspect of marriage including choosing a spouse, the wedding itself, creating a life together, children, sexuality, and also marital problems and issues of divorce. He includes anecdotal experiences along with legal explanations and cultural discussions. This book encourages the reader to grow his mindset from thinking solely about the legalities of marriage to contemplating its realities, with sweet tips about romance and just plain old goodness.”

Dr. Tamara Gray

Executive Director, Rabata, USA

“Alhamdulillah, this is a very well thought-out and well-written book on the details of such an important topic. Shaykh Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera has indeed simplified the subject in a way that is clear, to the point and beneficial. May Allah Almighty grant his work acceptance and reward him in this world and the next. Aameen”

Mufti Ismail Menk

Zimbabwe, 10 Ramadan 1440

Mufti Abdur-Rahman Mangera’s well-written work, titled “Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage is basically just that: a book and a guide that every Muslim couple should keep as a handy resource throughout their journey of marriage. In some ten chapters, the author – in a casual and descriptive manner – discusses and provides practical solutions to the various issues that arise in any given marriage. Examples quoted from real life scenarios and experiences really make the book personal and relatable to each reader.” I pray Allah Most High accept it and make it beneficial, Amin.

Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

Darul Iftaa, UK

“With a wealth of experience and a warm, sympathetic tone, Shaykh Abdur-Rahman brings the insight of a scholar with thousands of hours of spiritual and marital-counselling practice and Islamic erudition to his subject. He answers questions of a practical nature about finding a spouse, approaching intimacy, dealing with cultural expectations, and navigating conflict, while also grounding the discussion in Islamic principles and elevating our view of marriage as an arena to show good character and ethical behaviour….

I believe that no Imam should perform a nikah (wedding) ceremony unless the prospective couple has had premarital counselling and demonstrated sufficient knowledge of the fiqh (rulings) associated with marriage and, very importantly, the spirit of those rulings. Shaykh Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera’s book, in my opinion, would be ideally suited as an in-depth prerequisite course of marital counselling for a prospective bride and groom, and should be required reading for all parties involved. May Allah Ta’ala reward Shaykh Abdur-Rahman for this labour of love and accept from him.”

Ustadha Zaynab Ansari

Tayseer Seminary, USA

Masha Allah all the information is well put, organized and clearly stated. Despite being “written by a man” I think women will find it quite fair, if not advantageous to them and their personal experiences.

Ustadha Shamira


I really like the fact that the book is an easy read and touches upon topics which other books consider unimportant to talk about. I also like that the book begins with the procedure of finding a partner and ends with divorce, covering almost all aspects, even having children and still making an effort for your spouse.



Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera

Dr. Shaykh Abdur-Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera is a British Muslim scholar educated in both the Islamic and Western traditions. He memorised the Qur’an by heart and graduated from the Darul Uloom seminary Bury, UK, and later earned a specialised licence to issue fatwa (legal responses) at Mazahir ‘Ulum Saharanpur, India. He earned his BA from the University of Johannesburg and completed his MA and PhD in Islamic Studies from the School of Oriental and African Studies in London. He holds an honorary fellowship at The Royal Aal al-Bayt Institute for Islamic Thought, Amman, Jordan. Shaykh Abdur-Rahman has the unique experience of serving as an imam in Muslim communities on both sides of the Atlantic, eight years in Southern California and over five in the great city of London—and his continued work as an international speaker and lecturer enables him to address and offer pertinent advice on current challenges that face Muslims in the West. He is the founder of Whitethread Institute, a post-graduate insititute for Islamic scholars. He is an avid traveller and continues to teach hadith and work on scholarly publications through White Thread Press (www.whitethreadpress.com). Many of his lectures are available on www.zamzamacademy.com and his courses through Rayyan Institute (www.rayyaninstitute.com).

Weight 0.4 kg
Dimensions 21.5 × 14 × 2 cm
Book Author


5.5" x 8.5"






Pub. Date

Aug 2019

Customer Reviews

Based on 101 reviews
Amro Abdulal
Thank you

May Allah reward you all absolute goodness in this life and the next

Faisal Shegow
Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

Great book so far, I’ve listen to Mufti lectures a couple years now and gain alot knowledge from his khutbahs in the pursuit of becoming a better muslim Alhamdulilah,

In sha Allah this will help me to become a great spouse one day when i become one in sha Allah.

I recommend it highly!

Nicolino Michela Dunia

i had a lot of questions and insecuritys now i feel and i know a lot more.
Barakallahu feekum

Mohamed Ibrahim

Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

Ammar Shahid

Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

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Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage

Sarah Virani

I’m writing this review as a single person and it was very easy to read and super concise. I really liked how the fiqh of marriage was blended in with the practical tips and real life examples both modern and during the time Nabi ﷺ. I would recommend single individuals to read this early because the more time you have to process this advice and ask questions the better.
This book has been written so that it can be read multiple times at different points in your marriage (before/during/after) and with your spouse. It’s very straightforward. I would read this book with an open mindset about the the roles of a husband and wife in marriage without allowing western ideas to affect your judgement. I would also read this book with the available videos on ZamZam Academy’s YouTube channel as they add richness to the book with their explanations.

Farzanah Mahmood
A balanced view on marriage and an enjoyable read.

I would recommend it to everyone. Different chapters can help different people and their situations. I really enjoyed the style of writing and stories behind some of the points as well as the references from past scholars and sahaba stories I hadn’t heard.

Muhammad Saud

Handbook of a Healthy Muslim Marriage


Loved the book, I've been recommending it to so many people I know hamdillah

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